Jonathan and David: Kindred Spirits Bible Study

A short Bible study about the friendship of Jonathan and King David. Revealing truth and dispelling false rumors.

Before doing this Bible study, please read the 1-minute devotion Kindred Spirits-Jonathan and David's Friendship. It explains that both David and Jonathan had a deep respect for God's Word in regard to authority and they had deep faith in God's ability and power.


Let's look at these two qualities: 

1. They had respect for God-given authority.


God promises to bless us when we respect our parents and others in authority even if they don't necessarily “deserve” that respect based on their character. We respect them out of respect for God's commands to do so.

Ephesians 6:2-3: “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” 

Read about the life of Jonathan in Scripture, and you'll find that Jonathan disapproved of some of his father's choices and rescued David from being murdered by his father, but he fought loyally alongside his father and died doing so. He showed his father respect but refused to do anything ungodly. 

I encourage you to check out the Bite Size Bible study The Serious Consequences of Dishonoring Parents.

Romans 13:1-2: Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. 2 Consequently, whoever rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves.

For more on our responsibility to government, see It's the Law.

2. They believed God is able to do anything He wants. 

Both Jonathan and David agreed on this truth and lived it out. See examples in 
1 Samuel 14:6 and 1 Samuel 17:45-47.

Jeremiah 32:17: “Ah, Sovereign LORD, you have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and outstretched arm. Nothing is too hard for you.

Mark 10:27: 
Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.

Ephesians 3:20-21 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen

Addressing the claim of Gay Revisionists about David and Jonathan having a homosexual relationship.

It's so sad when gay revisionists take a few innocent details in Scripture to create a false claim that denies the rest of the Bible. These are the passages they use:

1 Samuel 18:1-3After David had finished talking with Saul, Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself. 2 From that day Saul kept David with him and did not let him return home to his family. 3 And Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as himself.

One in spirit is not one in body. Philippians 2:2 says Christians should belike-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind with our fellow believers. And Mark 12:30-31 says,Love your neighbor as yourself 

2 Samuel 1:26I grieve for you, Jonathan my brother; you were very dear to me. Your love for me was wonderful, more wonderful than that of women.

This statement is not about sex but about loyalty and sacrificial love. Remember that Jonathan protected and favored David as the next king even though Jonathan was legally the heir to the throne. I think this relationship was probably David's best in life. Nothing in Scripture makes us think David enjoyed a special relationship with his family or his wives.  

God gives clear commands against homosexuality, yet when God speaks of David's life, he says he obeyed all of God's commands except in his situation with Bathsheba and Uriah (1 Kings 15:5).

According to commentaries (source):

SummaryHe grieves openly, celebrates the joy Jonathan brought, marvels at love proven through sacrifice, and finds it greater than any earthly affection he had known. The verse calls believers to value faithful, God-honoring friendship and to recognize in it a glimpse of the ultimate covenant love displayed by our Savior. (underlining mine)

Ellicott's CommentaryBy this strong expression, comparing Jonathan's love for David to that of the faithful wife for her husband, David shows his appreciation of that wonderful affection which had existed between Jonathan and himself under the most untoward circumstances. It was such an affection as could only exist between noble natures and those united in the fear of God. In these last verses of the elegy which relate to Jonathan alone, David has given expression to his own personal sorrow. (underlining mine)

Pulpit CommentaryNever was there a purer friendship than that of Jonathan for David. It began just after the combat with Goliath, when the young prince, instead of seeing in David a rival, who had equalled his own feat of valour, took him to his heart, put upon him his own robe and armour, and thus presented him to the army as his friend and brother. Nor did his father's hatred of David, nor the knowledge that David was to inherit the kingdom, interfere with his love. He remained a dutiful son to his father, and accepted his inferior position with magnanimity, without once seeing in David cause for blame; and it surpassed the love of women, because, to requite their devotion, they look for protection and homage, the more delightful because it is paid by the strong to the weak. (underlining mine)

Why this gay revisionist argument contradicts Scripture in general:

1. Every mention of homosexuality in Old and New Testaments is negative. It is clearly condemned.

2. David is esteemed by God, and God would not esteem someone who unashamedly carried on a homosexual or bisexual lifestyle. God clearly rebuked David for his adultery with Bathsheba and his murder of Uriah. The only reason David was restored to God and continued to have his favor was because he repented sincerely. And he still paid a heavy price for those sins.

Both Jonathan and David married, had children and lived heterosexual lifestyles. Homosexual or bisexual inferences in these Scriptures are totally manufactured. They are not present in the text, lifestyles, or theme of these men's lives. 


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A short Bible study about the friendship of Jonathan and King David. Revealing truth and dispelling false rumors.



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