A relative is distant and angry but refuses your repeated attempts to discuss things.
You have major problems with someone important in your life, but you decide they wouldn't understand so you do nothing. You've tried before and see no use in trying again.
We're messy, fallen people and our attempts at communication are
If others refuse to talk, we have to move on. But we should never be the ones to give up (Luke 17:3-4).(1)
Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
This sharpening process is noisy, abrasive and humbling at times but important in our walk with the Lord, especially when dealing with family. (2)
Have you given up on someone in your life? Please pray about it as you work through the Bible passages below.
1. Note these two passages which encourage us to deal with relationship problems:
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“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.”
“If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault”
2. What cautions should we take before trying to talk things through with others?
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
This passage does not mean that we are not to judge another person's behavior. It means we are not to judge them hypocritically, without first judging ourselves. For more understanding of this passage, read "Do Not Judge" and Judge the Sin, Not the Sinner.
“Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself.” NLT
(1) If someone becomes verbally abusive or angry, you may need to take a break, letting them know you want to talk when they calm down. And you may need to avoid certain subjects (i.e. "triggers" to conflict), but you can't avoid talking about your relationship problems.
(2) Whether we like it or not, God is the One responsible for placing us in our particular family, and He never does anything without good purposes.
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