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Sunday, December 20, 2015

Grow Up! And Start Honoring Your Parents As God Commands

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Recently someone told me, "If you knew MY parents, you'd understand why I don't honor them."

This attitude is prevalent in our culture - even among Christians, whether they openly admit it or not. 

But God doesn't give us the power to decide when to apply His commands, and He offers no exceptions to His Fifth Commandment.*

Whether we like it or not, our attitude toward our parents reflects our attitude toward God. 

1. When we refuse to move past our family difficulties we doubt God's ability to use all things for good (Romans 8:28). 

2. When we judge our parents harshly and judge ourselves leniently, we become hypocrites (Matthew 7:1-4). 

3. When we refuse to forgive our parents, we become bitter (Ephesians 4:32). 

 4. When we ignore the command "Honor your father and mother" (Ephesians 6:2-3) we damage our well-being (Exodus 20:1-17). 

Even if you aren't neglecting, rejecting or resenting your parents, examine your heart and ask God if you're truly honoring them. 
*If your parents are truly abusive, God will give you safe ways to honor them.

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If you think your parents need to "earn" your respect, think again. God puts no conditions on His command to honor parents.

Some parents are especially evil and God will give you wisdom about honoring them in ways that do not harm you physically or emotionally.  But most parents are doing the best they can. As we deal Biblically with our parents, we learn trust, grace, and forgiveness. 

Perhaps our greatest sin as adult children is harshly judging our parents while excusing our own disrespect, disregard, or bitterness. 

Read this paraphrase of Matthew 7:1-5 and answer the questions below it:

Matthew 7:1-5: “Do not judge [your parents], and you will not be judged. 2 For you will be treated as you treat [your parents]. The standard you use in judging [your parents] is the standard by which you will be judged. 3 “And why worry about a speck in your [parents' eyes] when you have a log in your own? 4 How can you think of saying to your [parents], ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? 5 Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your [parents' eyes]." (NLT) 

For better understanding of this passage, read "Do Not Judge"

1. Have you ever taken time to carefully examine your actions and attitudes toward your parents, both when you were living in their home and as an adult? This is the only way to remove the plank from your eye so you can see your parent's sins in perspective. Many adult children focus on their parents' mistakes without ever examining their own. 

When you were young: Were you an obedient child, grateful, respectful, helpful?

Since you've been an adult, have you been respectful, grateful, helpful, and considerate?

Most adults have great difficulty seeing their faults and great ease seeing their parents.

2. Have you ever confessed and asked forgiveness of your parents for ways you treated them as a child? How often have you asked their forgiveness as an adult? This is a necessary part of taking the plank out of your eye.

3. Have you ever studied the word "honor" used in the original Fifth Commandment command? Dennis Rainey explains it below:

In the original Hebrew language, the word for honor meant "heavy" or "weight." ... "I weigh you down with respect and prestige. I place upon you great worth and value."  
~ Dennis Rainey, The Tribute 

It's nothing new for people to excuse their dishonor of their parents and still think they are right with God:

Matthew 15:3-9: "Jesus replied, “And why do you, by your traditions, violate the direct commandments of God? 4 For instance, God says, ‘Honor your father and mother,’ and ‘Anyone who speaks disrespectfully of father or mother must be put to death.’ 5 But you say it is all right for people to say to their parents, ‘Sorry, I can’t help you. For I have vowed to give to God what I would have given to you.’ 6 In this way, you say they don’t need to honor their parents. And so you cancel the word of God for the sake of your own tradition. 7 You hypocrites! Isaiah was right when he prophesied about you, for he wrote, 8 ‘These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. 9 Their worship is a farce, for they teach man-made ideas as commands from God.’” 

God uses our relationship with our parents to teach us about our relationship with Him: Hebrews 12:7-10; Luke 11:11-13; 1 John 3:1; Hebrews 12:14-15). 

Our perfect Father commands us to honor our imperfect parents, not because they necessarily deserve honor but because He does! Please read We Can Be Victims or Victors if your parents are especially difficult. 

copyright, Gail Burton Purath, BiteSizeBibleStudy.com 
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2 comments:

  1. God was just speaking some of this to me this morning. He is helping me let go of their weaknesses and helping me to grow up, not that he is saying this in a scolding way but in a way that says, "you can and are doing it and I am proud of you." 43 year old mom of 4.

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    1. That blesses me to hear.
      In the same way, God spoke these truths to me.
      May He continue to guide you in your relationship with your parents.

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